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Things to Consider When Giving Advice
February 23, 2015
One of the Support Functions of Cognitive CoachingSM and the Leadership Hats of Adaptive Schools is Consulting. Thinking Collaborative advocates that consulting should be done with an intention to promote self-directedness in individuals and groups.
The authors of a recent article, “The Art of Giving and Receiving Advice,” provide tips for five stages of advising for both the Seeker of Advice and the Giver of Advice. This week we explore the guidelines they offer for the Giver of Advice.
Stage 1 Finding the Right Fit
Consider whether you are the best person to offer advice – your expertise, your time, your experience, your relationship
Identify others who also might serve as consultants
Stage 2 Developing a Shared Understanding
Structure time and place that allow for focus without distractions
Suspend judgments and listen for understanding using paraphrasing
Use open-ended questioning skills to deepen breadth of understanding and pose questions for specificity for depth of understanding
Develop agreements about what type of advice you will offer
Stage 3 Crafting Alternatives
Clarify you are offering options, not making decisions for the person
Offer multiple ideas and give choices for flexibility
Provide rationale and principles to support your advice
Stage 4 Converging on a Decision
Assist the person in evaluating each option
Pause to allow the person to think
Offer to be available for follow-up and reflection
Stage 5 Putting Advice into Action
Remind the person that the decision is his or hers
Allow for follow-up as needed
Reflect back on consulting you have done lately. Which of these guidelines did you follow? How might you have been more effective? What are you learning about consulting and how might you apply it with a person you work with in the future?
How might these be useful in your own family?
Gavin, D & Margolis, J. (2015). The Art of Giving and Receiving Advice. Harvard Business Review, p. 60-71